When I moved my private therapy practice from the Seattle-area to southern Oregon last year, I decided it was a good time to extricate myself from the constraints of being an insurance-based provider. This was something I had wanted to do for a long time, but I was scared. I was scared of losing clients and scared that people weren't willing to pay out of pocket for a preventive service that focused on their well-being. I felt the fear and did it anyway, lol. And I did lose c
As a coach, therapist, and personal trainer I have witnessed the *I-want-things-to-change-but-I-don't-want-to-change-things* phenomenon more times than I can count.
It has helped me a lot to understand that it is always FEAR that lies underneath the resistance to change.
We fear that we will have to give something up that is truly meaningful to us, forgetting that our desire to change is based on dissatisfaction with our current state. In other words, we are already in pa
Are you really who you think you are? A lot of us think that we are our personality, but our personality isn't as fixed as we might think it is. My understanding is that while we are born with a certain temperament, many aspects of our personality are just ideas, or beliefs, about ourselves that are reinforced over and over again throughout our lives. We come to see ourselves in a certain way and hold on to that vision of ourselves with a fair amount of rigidity. Recently a c