Your past is past and it does not determine your future.
But the past can be heavy. All of us have been hurt, we've been rejected, and our sense of self-worth has suffered. We have shame, we have regret, and we have guilt. Some of us have had big past trauma.
I spent a lot of time over the past year trying to understand a time in my life when things had gone *a little haywire*. And while I recognized that that this was an important phase in my personal development, I still felt a lot of shame about the person I was then.